The Pleasure For Health Podcast

Creating safety in a relationship

Creating Safety in a relationship is so much harder than we think. Why is this? How is our fear sabotaging our best intimate moments and robbing us of creating stronger and more fully authentic partnerships? Join Ailsa for an exploration of fear and how it often drives us away from what we really want. 

What really happens in a Somatic Intimacy Session?

What happens when you come for a session with A Somatic Sex Educator? Join Ailsa for an informal chat about what to expect and what people come to see me for. For more info see my website www.pleasureforhealth.com

How we related to our Mother effects our ability to love

Join me as I chat with Leslie Costello, a certified Perinatal Psychotherapist and certified Bioenergetic Therapist about early bonding and how that affects our adult relationships. We discussed the enmeshment of the early infant and mother relationship, the shame that can come with this. We even touched on AI and how that might be impeding our relational maturity. 

Leslie is the author of "Helping Mothers, Helping Babies: Somatic Perinatal Psychotherapy" a book designed to help talk therapists bring somatic tools into their sessions with mothers. 

Links:

 https://bookshop.org/p/books/helping-mothers-helping-babies-somatic-perinatal-psychotherapy-leslie-ann-costello/22519210?ean=9781739017057&next=t

 

 or order from your local independent bookstore. It is also available at the big online booksellers.

 

Her blog is free on Substack:  https://pamola10.substack.com

Why do I have to talk about it?

Why do I have to talk about it? communication is key to good relationships but does it really require hours of discussion? Let’s dive into how and why talking is helpful and other options if talking is not your strong point.

Find out more about me and my offerings on my website www.pleasureforhealth.com

 

Desire mismatch and how to create more intimacy

Desire mismatch. Let’s talk about what happens when two people have different levels of erotic desire. This could be due to personality differences or because of childbirth, illness or some other life event. How can the relationship stay alive and connected during this times? Join Ailsa live to find out more.

Relationships are a mirror

How do relationships act as a mirror for us in our own personal development and how do we know when to stand up for our own perspective? Join me for an exploration of the idea of "I", "you" and the "group" and if they can work together to further our journey towards Self. 

The Sacred Inner Marriage and how to integrate this in our Self

What is the Sacred Marriage within and more importantly how can we actually embody this? Let’s look at the reality of integrating opposing aspects of ourselves such as the conscious and unconscious parts of our Psyche.

Chaos, Eros and Falling in Love!

In the beginning was Chaos who birthed Eros, Gaia and other gods and goddesses of the night, dreaming, darkness, the underworld. These qualities are necessary to experience 'Falling in Love' and surrendering to desire and passion. Join me for a discussion of this topic and follow me on Podbean or my website www.pleasureforhealth.com

 

Stressors that can make or break your relationships

Join me as I talk about different types of stressors and how they affect our relationships. This model of looking at horizontal and vertical axes in our lives and what we might be bringing unconsciously into our present moment with loved ones is super helpful if you want to find more intimacy and depth. 

How co-dependent patterns lead to partisan societies

Co dependency is a pattern often passed on in family systems. We are recognized and acknowledged for only certain parts of ourselves and other parts are ignored or denied. This leads to a discrepancy with who we think we are and the reality of our Shadow aspects which still have power in our lives and relationships. Learning to see and recognize these hidden parts of ourselves by being 'triggered' is actually a necessary vehicle for personal growth.