Intense Emotions & Intimacy

Are we afraid of intense emotion?

This question was raised recently in a discussion on how we tend to equate all high emotional states with sex. This seemed to be especially true of men.

Our culture has forbidden men to show much real emotion at all, and quite often this ‘shutting down’ of their emotion, has led men to categorize and box up intense emotional states with the physical act of intimacy.

This box, we put our sexuality into, is then also labelled taboo and shut up inside another box, just like a set of Russian dolls.

No wonder then, that many of us have either too many feelings about sex or lack feelings altogether. We try desperately to separate one from the other, but end up just feeling frustrated or numb.