The Pleasure For Health Podcast
Relationship skills could save the world

Relationship skills could save the world

February 17, 2022

How do we show up to ourselves, our relationships and to our communities these days? Are we abnegating responsibility or are we getting involved and personal with people around us? It's easy to shame and blame others if we don't 'know' them, but how would it be if we chose to encounter even those we don't agree with, with some openness and willingness to engage? These relationship skills are necessary to creating a peaceful way forward in these days of conflict.

Dating over 50

Dating over 50

February 7, 2022

What specific challenges face people who are choosing to date again in their mid to late life? Perhaps having been in a long term relationship or single for awhile, it is finally time to reinvest in finding a partner, or companion or erotic playmate. Let's chat about things to consider and ways to move forward with getting back out there in the dating scene. 

How can we make conflict a generative force towards intimacy?

How can we make conflict a generative force towards intimacy?

February 1, 2022

We have not learned to be present with ourselves yet for the most part and because we live in a world with oppression and exploitation, we often meet conflict in a way that is combative. Let's talk about how to change that narrative and learn to use conflict as a force or change and growth. 

How is our collective trauma affecting your relationships?

How is our collective trauma affecting your relationships?

January 14, 2022

We are all going through a stressful and fearful time right now and this is having real, long term effects on our ability to be present and loving in our relationships. Join me for a discussion on how trauma affects our ability to be intimate and also what we can do about it. 

Is it flirting or fawning?

Is it flirting or fawning?

November 23, 2021

What is the difference between the 'fawn' trauma response and flirting? How can we tell the difference in our interactions with others and in our own bodies? Fawning, as a response to feeling unsafe, is the act of excessive people pleasing that can lead us to become involved in abusive relationships patterns. 

Inanna‘s descent -an inner journey

Inanna‘s descent -an inner journey

October 31, 2021

Inanna in this piece, so the interpretation goes, is not a `whole person' until she appears vulnerable before her `darker half', dies, and returns to life. At the poem's end, this interpretation asserts, Inanna, through her descent into darkness, the shedding of the trappings of her former self, confrontation with her `shadow', death of who she was, and final re-birth, is now a complete individual, wholly aware. Join me for a discussion, reading and a practice to glean the lessons from this story that resonate with many of our own inner journey's, even today. This is aimed at women but is completely relevant to any gender.

Ask Ailsa - what do you say when someone asks - What do you want in bed?

Ask Ailsa - what do you say when someone asks - What do you want in bed?

October 11, 2021

How do you answer the question, 'what do you want in bed'? Sometimes learning about our arousal and desires takes some work. Join me for a discussion and a guided exercise to discover what turns you on and what doesn't. 

How do we make choices?

How do we make choices?

September 28, 2021

Making a choice can be complex. Which part of us is in the driver's seat? What are our motivations and desires? Are we in integrity or do we have conflicting wants? When we take time to explore how we make choices and which part of ourselves is making the choice, we can become aware and really take responsibility for our choices in our relationships. 

Why should I hire a Sex and Intimacy coach?

Why should I hire a Sex and Intimacy coach?

September 11, 2021

We can learn everything these days, from building a chicken coop to writing a book, but learning about Sex or Relationships is still a taboo thing. Why would we want to hire a sex coach and how should we value this type of learning? 

How do we create consensual agreements around Covid in our relationships?

How do we create consensual agreements around Covid in our relationships?

September 4, 2021

These days there is much to negotiate in our intimate relationships. We're all still in a state of fight or flight, making us more susceptible to arguments and generally feeling more stressed out which only makes these fights harder to navigate. People are discussing important topics like how to navigate Covid and health related issues, as well as socializing, mask wearing and other important social questions right now. Let's look at this from the lens of consent and how to negotiate a consensual agreement that can work for both parties. 

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