The Pleasure For Health Podcast

Fundamentalist thought as a coping strategy

Do you find that you have retreated into a smaller and smaller box in your thinking and acceptance of alternate views? We have collectively all been through a very stressful time the last couple of years and I have noticed that many of us have become more entrenched in our own viewpoints. Is this fundamentalist phenomenon a response to feeling unsafe and if so how can we move towards collective safety and acceptance again? 

What does ’connection’ mean?

Join me to discuss the idea of connection and friendship/ relationship ties. Using the famous story of 'The Little Prince'. Here is a short excerpt from his dialogue with the fox.

What does that mean--'tame'?"

"It is an act too often neglected," said the fox. It means to establish ties."

"'To establish ties'?"

"Just that," said the fox. "To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you, I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world . . ."

What is relational abuse?

Going live in a couple of minutes What is relationship abuse? We are currently in a culture of calling people out in a more public way than perhaps a couple of decades ago. Abusive behaviour is not tolerated the way it once was. But do we need to catch up on how to really tell what is abuse and what is just an easier way to blame someone else for our issues? These are important things to consider when beginning a new relationship or evaluating an old one.

Wall or boundaries?

What walls do you put up in order to avoid intimacy? Join me as we talk about the rigid boundaries we create to protect ourselves: anger, fear, silence and words. When we created these rigid blocks or boundaries we are responding in a dysfunctional way to protect our sense of self or reality that we haven't yet learned how to create from within. 

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The Art of Receiving pleasure

The art of Receiving Pleasure

 

On first glance this seems like something we hardly need to go into in any depth. I mean who doesn’t want to receive pleasure? How hard can it be? 

 

The answer most of us come to is actually very difficult indeed. 

 

Why? 

 

Because it takes much more vulnerability to open the door and receive a gift than it does to leave a gift on someone else’s doorstep. Many of us become avid givers of gifts in the hope that sometime, somehow we will receive something in return, only to find that when it happens we can’t let it in! 

 

Isn’t that a pretty plight? Something we have dreamed about for ages and we can’t actually get in the mindset to accept it when it happens. 

 

So how do we get in the place to receive a gift? 

 

Join me today to discuss this process and the practice of learning to receive with grace. 

What do you want me to do for you?

What happens when your partner innocently asks you a question like "What do you want me to make you for breakfast?" 

Do you respond with your breakfast order and settle comfortably at the table to receive your partner's gift or does the question throw you into a myriad of internal conflict? 

Join me for a discussion of the nuances of relating and how questions like this can make or break your relationship. 

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Power: the ups and downs

How does power affect relationships? Is power bad? how can we take our power and how do we give away power. Join me for a discussion on this 'power-full' topic. 

Bringing our wounds to light and finding wholeness in pleasure

How do we deal with our own emotions around intimacy and relationships? What do we need to discuss with our partners and what do we need to hold ourselves? Are there other ways to get support around our relational wounds? Join me for a discussion of these topics and questions today.

The cyclical nature of violence and its effects on relationships

"We are, both the potentially nicest, and the potentially cruelest, species on the planet." Augustin Fuentes

How will we transform violence and stop it from perpetuating more violence in our hearts, minds, families and communities? Join me for a discussion about violence and the long term effects and how to begin the healing.

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Relationship skills could save the world

How do we show up to ourselves, our relationships and to our communities these days? Are we abnegating responsibility or are we getting involved and personal with people around us? It's easy to shame and blame others if we don't 'know' them, but how would it be if we chose to encounter even those we don't agree with, with some openness and willingness to engage? These relationship skills are necessary to creating a peaceful way forward in these days of conflict.