The Pleasure For Health Podcast

Why does being with a Narcissist make me feel so bad?

Why do Narcissists make me feel so bad? 

 

As humans, we have an innate desire to connect in community; find our pack, so to speak. A major part of this communal experience is the feeling of co-regulation with others. It connects us on this physiological level through our nervous system. 

 

On our own, we have ways to Self regulate if we are stressed that might include taking a deep breath or exercising.  Self-regulation is a process of managing one’s thoughts, emotions, and behaviours in response to external and internal stimuli. Co-regulation, on the other hand, is a process where two people work together to manage their emotions. In order to co-regulate successfully, each individual needs to be aware of their own emotions and be able to communicate them with their partner.

Listen in as I discuss why Narcissistic people have trouble with co-regulation and even self-regulation. 

What’s our body telling us?

As a Bodyworker I have seen many examples of how disease and dysfunction has a deeper meaning to the person however I never put that together with sexual issues with our genitals in the same way, especially with the male genital. Join me for a discussion of the existential meaning of our genitals. 

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Your relationship as an initiatory experience

A couple facing crisis in their relationship, such as separation or divorce, is on an initiatory path. Initiation is simply a set of challenges presented to an individual so that he or she may grow. Consequently, the troubles we encounter in our paths in the modern world are, in essence, initiatory to the extent that each one of them is life changing. The issue for Westerners is not so much the absence of initiation as it is the absence of a community to recognize initiatory passages. 

Malidoma Patrice Some 

Join me to discuss how relationships can offer us both an opportunity and a witness for initiations in our lives. 

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Do our memories make our self and what happens if AI stores all our memories?

"Our experience of our own identity is linked to the realization of our own life history. Because the ‘treasure of our memories’ is what makes our lives whole." 

R. Steiner

 

How does this affect our understanding of ourselves and potentially our use and relationship with Artificial intelligence? 

How sharing your fantasies can increase intimacy with your partner

How can we spice up our sex lives again?

 

I wanted to address this topic, because it is one of the most common issues I hear about on a daily basis. We all hear about couples becoming ‘best friends’ or about ‘lesbian bed death’ or how ‘we haven’t had sex in months’, or ‘he/she is just not interested in me anymore’ from our friends, coworkers, on TV. The idea that inevitably our sex lives diminish the longer we stay with someone in a committed relationship, or the older we get, is endemic in our society. 

 

If you thought to yourself ‘that’s not us, we are doing great!’, then congratulations! You are one of the few lucky ones. But if, any part of this idea rings true to you, then listen in!

 

Of course, this is not a simple problem with a one stop solution, but I thought I’d share a fun idea with you that is easy to try, and might spark a move in the right direction (ie. to the bedroom...or anywhere else you fancy some hot and steamy action!)

 

Join me to discuss how sharing your fantasies or parts of them can catapult your relationship into hot, new territory. 

 

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Talking about Touch

touch is a basic human need and its important to understand we can learn about touch  - what we like, what we don't like, how to ask for touch or how to say no. What 'touches' you? How could you feed your own touch needs without having an intimate partner. Join me for this discussion and look for more ways to connect with me on my website www.pleasureforhealth.com

 

How can we become a better partner?

Have you ever thought about whether you are a good companion or partner? We often focus so much on the ’other’ that we forget to take into account our own personality. Let’s look at how we can become a better person and partner and therefore attract a great person or people into our life. You can find out more about me on my website www.pleasureforhealth.com

Why do I sabotage my relationships?

Do you sabotage your relationships? Why do we do this and how does it serve us to do this? maybe most of all, how can we stop sabotaging ourselves and our relationships? Join me for a live discussion on these topics. find out more about me and my work here: 
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Self Esteem is an Intimate Experience

"The tragedy of many people's lives is that they look for self esteem in every direction but within and therefore they fail in their search." The intimacy of connecting with Self and the awareness and honesty we bring to that relationship increases our Self Esteem and we begin to live life and make choices from a place of high self esteem. Join me for a discussion of these topics based on Nathanial Branden's book on Self Esteem. 

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The overcoupling response and how to work with it consciously

Do you get stuck in a loop of 'if this... then that....' ? Does this type of reaction get in the way of you creating a more intimate and conscious relationship with your partner? Join me for a discussion on how we create these response loops and how we can work with them to recreate new ways of being. 

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